Mentoring is offered on a month-to-month basis, with the option to receive a discount when paid quarterly. This allows flexibility while still encouraging consistency.

While this is a month-to-month commitment, deep change doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time to build trust, start uncovering root issues, and begin to shift long-held patterns. I encourage you to commit to at least three months to give the process a fair shot. After that, we’ll check in together and see if continuing feels like the right next step.

You’re not broken—but you are in need of deep healing. Recovery from compulsive sexual behavior or addiction often takes longer than we’d like. It’s not a quick fix. And while that may feel discouraging at first, the good news is that healing is possible, especially when you stick with the process. Real change doesn’t just involve stopping a behavior—it’s about transforming your heart, your habits, your view of yourself, and how you relate to others.

There’s no required time commitment, but experience shows the men who experience the greatest breakthroughs commit to at least one year of focused mentorship. This isn’t just my perspective—it’s the wisdom of countless men who have walked this road and now live in freedom.

The average time it takes to recover from compulsive sexual behaviors and rebuild a healthy, trustworthy life can range from 18 months to 5 years. That’s not just about sobriety—it’s about emotional and relational health. The first year of focused mentorship is foundational. It sets the tone for long-term success and can radically change your life, your mind, and your relationships.

That’s a fair and important question. Mentoring is a deeply personal process, and not every approach works for every person. If you give it a try and find that it’s not quite clicking—for any reason—we want you to find what does work.

Our standard policy is to require 30 days written notice to end mentoring and stop any future payments. However, we also understand that sometimes you just know early on that it’s not the right fit. If at any point during your first month of mentoring you decide it isn’t a match, we’ll honor your decision. Simply provide notice within 5 days of your next scheduled payment, and we’ll cancel your plan and refund any unused portion of a prepaid package.

We honor your journey, your time, your investment, and the courage it takes to keep searching for the support that’s right for you.

There’s a shift happening in the world of recovery—and it's a good one.

While individual work is vital, research and experience show that healing happens faster and deeper when both partners are involved—individually and together. This is not the outdated “stay on your side of the street” model. Emerging models, like Early Recovery Couples Empathy (ERCE) and Couple-Centered Recovery, recognize the power of healing together. For many, this model has helped shorten the traditional 3 to 5-year recovery timeline—and brought renewed hope much sooner than expected.

In this mentoring approach, we integrate your work, your partner’s healing, and your relationship as a whole. When you learn to show empathy, practice rigorous honesty, and support her safety, you not only change your own life—you help heal the person you’ve wounded. This is where true relational restoration begins.

Learn more about our Couples Mentoring.

You’re not expected to get everything right—but you are expected to be humble, honest, and willing. Progress happens through vulnerability and consistency, not performance. Mistakes are part of recovery, but so is responsibility. We walk with you through the hard parts—without shame, but also without enabling.

It is your job early on to do everything you possibly can to create and maintain safety for your partner. This includes learning empathy, offering full transparency, and making yourself accessible and accountable. This might mean sharing phone passwords, giving access to bank accounts, using accountability software, or allowing communication with your mentor, therapist, or sponsor. This isn’t about being controlled—it’s about rebuilding the trust that was lost through deception and secrecy.